Food for thought: He irritates me so much!
: How do feelings work? Feelings = thoughts + instincts. Thoughts assign definite meanings to instincts through the experience of feeling. Thus, behind every feeling is a causative thought.
No man can generate thoughts for another person, because that would require entering their soul and using their free will to form a thought. All a person can do is create an environment that enables another person to choose how to form and direct their thoughts in response to what is happening. Only when a thought is chosen, and thus meaning assigned, does it produce a corresponding feeling in the body.
“He irritates me so much”. No, irritation is a feeling, and this feeling is a consequence of the thought we voluntarily chose to assign to the experience. While their actions might be reprehensible, how we feel is a consequence of how we chose to think about it. Thus, it is not “he” irritates me, but “I am choosing to feel irritated”.
Dr. Ikenna Q. Ezealah