Why the fascination with falling “in love”? Give me a break, right? Yeah, but hear me out! Let me ask the question a different way: why the fascination with cooked food? Still don’t get it? Think of meat, rice, and all the other ingredients of nature that we gather and cook. What makes it so delicious? Answer: fire. Fire is the element that takes regular ingredients of nature and, through its heat, changes the chemical composition of the substances so that it is refined into a new consistency. In this sublimation new flavor is released, so the taste and consistency of the food changes, thus making it delicious for consumption.
Falling “in love” feels the same way. The connection between two people is like fire. It takes the mundane energy of each person and sublimates it in its flames, so that the composition of each person’s energy changes into a newer euphoric consistency that can be deliciously consumed in the buffet of romance! You follow? The key though is the transformative fire. So each person through these flames of sublimation, experiences his own energy in a different and newer way. And when this newer energy reciprocally flows between the two persons, their own energy is further amplified to stratospheric heights. Ergo, you can say each recognizes a different and newer flavor of their own heart through the fire. Hence it is the enthusiasm that lies in the profundity of this newer discovery of oneself that is the primary pull of falling “in love”.
At least that is a component of it. Hence we are fascinated with falling “in love” for the same reason we enjoy eating: the fire that transforms what is mundane into something extraordinary.
~Ikenna Q Ezealah