Lying and deceit is a form of control, and control is a form of fear. When we lie, it is because there is an outcome we are trying to control. For by controlling the perception of what another believes, we also control their actions. But in controlling through lying and deceit, it means we are also fearful of an outcome. For what we avoid and prevent through control is what we also fear. Furthermore, what we fear is what we have not fully accepted and understood inwardly, and thus what we believe will be detrimental to us.
So dishonesty is a passive form of tyranny, because it is a mechanism through which we try to limit the possible expression of another’s free will, i.e. control them. Another form dishonesty and deceit takes is through a misconception. When we hold a concept, we are controlled by that concept until we see different possibilities through another concept.
Lying and deceit is also a form of denial. For what we are quick to deny or distort through a false image is what we have not inwardly embraced or feel confident in. If we are confident in something, feel secure in it, and have fully accepted it as being of utmost value to us, i.e. recognized its supreme importance towards the attainment of our happiness, we will never deny it through falsely representing it. For what we falsely represent is what we are trying to hide from another, because it is something we are also trying to hide from ourselves.
So lying and deceit, which is a form of control, actually reveals where we have lost control. And where we lose control is where we lack power.
We can learn a lot by being honest with ourselves. It is when we try to conquer ourselves that it becomes increasingly difficult for people and situations to conquer us. But the first step is a brutal honesty about our own desires and intentions, no matter how ugly it is.
~Ikenna Q Ezealah