There is a simple irrefutable truth to life I have discovered. When a person experiences how hard of a struggle it is to permanently change his own heart, he naturally becomes more kind and gentle with his neighbor. He becomes less critical, more circumspect, and less harsh.
We must separate two categories of “change”. In one change, our default reaction becomes the new. In the second type, we have merely adopted the desire to be new and are in the process of battle to become new–but in trying moments we occasionally lapse back to the default settings of old. One is actual newness, another is the desire to be new that is slowly being integrated.
The man who takes up the sword and really wages a war of transformation against his own inner demons, and feels how fierce the struggle is will be very slow to condemn others. I guarantee you! Weariness and tears of struggle from his own battle to become new will “mute his lips” from castigation, and “open his heart” to kindness and forgiveness.
Thus he who freely demonizes others has either: 1) not earnestly began the struggle to become new, or 2) his words are guile meant to mask the enormity of his own demons by illuminating those of his neighbors. There are no third options.
~Ikenna Q Ezealah