When someone you deem vainglorious suffers a fall from grace, and is thus humbled by a hard experience that shatters their presumption, humiliates them, and leaves them completely undone…do not taunt them! One should not derive pleasure from another’s misfortune, i.e.”schadenfreude”, as the Germans would say. Resist all ridicule and mockery! In that sacred hour, remain silent and permit them the space of deep self-reflection. They will expect derision and scorn, and will arm themselves to contumaciously defend what little pride still lingers. For self-defense against virulent attacks is an instinct of self-preservation.
But if you decide to give them a measured warmth where they expected malice, and disciplined kindness where they expected wickedness, such goodness will pierce through all armors of pride and unstitch them. It will teach them more than any of your disparagements would, and help them transform themselves. Forsooth, you will win over their heart, confidence, and goodwill without any malicious weapons; they will surrender it freely. Yet do not be indulgent in this, for the person needs to boldly face the discomfort of their fall as a help toward their development, and any attempt to prematurely ease the sting might be harmful. But the main thing is, give them your dignified silence and consideration. Do not use the opportunity to repress them and grandstand for your own ill-intentions. Allow them the space to work through their troubles without any ill-will, and they will respect you.
Eventually, they might grow to become your greatest respecter and most trusted ally. But during the initial times of their crash, resist the temptation to taunt, and show some dignified consideration.
~Ikenna Q Ezealah