The fundamentalism of the victimhood mentality is the belief that, excluding us as the special exception, everything and everyone around us should change and is to blame for our plight. In other words, our happiness and stability depends on the degree of changes everything outside us must make to appease our will. Once an individual internalizes this and makes this a permanent attribute of their inner constitution, they instantly become an emotional tyrant. For a tyrant coerces everyone into the strict observance and undisputed obedience to their will. An emotional tyrant is more passive in their tactics who use the “woe is me”, “life is unfair”, “I did nothing to deserve this” chatter to victimize themselves, hypnotize, manipulate and garner sympathy from others that compels and cunningly inveigles people into capitulating to their unstable and unhealthy desires. They fashion a tenacious spider web in which countless people become unsuspectingly trapped. But in all this there is not one genuine wish to look inward, question themselves and make permanent changes to their attitude, outlook, and concepts. Not one wish. So while the traditional tyrant is more externally clumsy, the victimhood tyrant is more sly and surreptitious in their doings. But inwardly they are both identical and indistinguishable, since their activity produces the same outcome and goal toward others: an unequivocal adjustment to their unalterable will around which everything must rotate.
~Ikenna Q Ezealah