“I don’t care what other people think!”

Flumadiddle! Most people who triumphantly proclaim this are usually either deceiving themselves or only trying, through the continual uttering of these words in self-hypnosis, to convince themselves otherwise. Only a few who profess this are really in earnest, but even these will hardly ever publicly advertise their convictions as a badge of distinction in order to solicit adulation. For the lucidity of their actions alone are pronouncement enough. The principle within the operation of the process is that the scorn, ridicule, and mockery of others only reflects our personal insecurities and weaknesses. Their doubts reflect our own doubts and lack of conviction. The “stratospheric high” derived from their conditional compliments and extolling reflects our morbid craving for affirmation, which is mostly rooted in our personal instability and the insidious desire to be recognized at all costs. The same jar that spills the honey of compliments that sweeten our pride, leaks the hemlock of criticism that wounds our vanity. Certes!

As long as a man bears faults and insecurities within himself, he will always in some capacity care what others think. He cares because what they say reflects something within him. And as long as what is within him is not conquered, he will be invariably subject to the fluctuations of this happening. So we can grandstand and sanctimoniously pontificate empty platitudes to make ourselves feel better, and thus convince ourselves otherwise. But deep down inside there is a different reality and truth we must confront. So long as a man’s heart still vacillates a parcel, the derision issuing from the thoughts of others must undoubtedly reach and affect him to somehow. The dithering frailties of his soul provides the basis for which this ridicule can establish a golden nexus! Only when we internally conquer ourselves can we be free of others. In view of this, who among us can proudly declare ourselves victorious in mounting this pinnacle without automatically joining the ranks of quacksalvers?

Beware then of meretricious persiflage employed only to mask the truth of where we individually stand. An honest assessment of our hearts without subterfuge is the startingpoint of true progress and self-conquest.

~Ikenna Q Ezealah

About Ikenna Q Ezealah

Ikenna Q Ezealah is a writer, author and essayist whose themes embrace human-spiritual development.
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