I was lambasted, cursed and dismissed by a homeless man who asked me for money. Upon hearing this request, as I was walking, I proceeded to query him further…about his situation and the use of this money. I was not so much interested in his response as I was using the questions as a gateway to enter his mindset and gauge his sincerity. Whether he plays victim or victor. Blame or responsibility. When I perceived a victim mindset and boundless anger that blamed everyone but himself, my eyes glazed over. In his whole narrative, everyone did everything wrong but him. Nor was there anything for him to learn either! He was fine, everyone was not. His volition was one of blame, not true humanity. After some seconds when he realized my wallet went into an enforced hibernation, he showered me with abuses. Needless to say, this was not a church “peace be with you” moment. But I felt for him. I truly did. However, the law of balance binds me to give only where there is a pulse of sincerity to fulfill harmony. If not, I am in violation of universal equilibrium.
Situations can do two things: calcify or intenerate our hearts. Even if we struggle, there is always something to learn in order to grow from. We ossify when we refuse to find something through which we can continue germinating inwardly. Only upon this basis can any help be extended. The scales of balance must always be fulfilled.
~Ikenna Q Ezealah